Lately, I've been contemplating and analyzing recent events in my life more than usual because of some changes that have led to feelings of loss. As an entrepreneur, I've had complete autonomy of my schedule, which has allowed me to move at a higher-than-normal pace. Because I became accustomed to this lifestyle and not being required to "check-in" with anyone, including myself, being exposed to a new routine threw me off course. I suddenly lost hours in my day due to a relationship and other unforeseen circumstances.
Although our personal relationships are an important aspect of life, it's equally as important to supply and sustain our own sense of security. We shouldn't depend on our partners for happiness or mental stability, which is why I believe it's important that we always strive to maintain awareness when things around us are changing. The greatest and most reliable supplier of joy is your own self.
The sudden "loss" of time I have felt lately led to many realities that I would have otherwise been unaware of. In today's Words of Wisdom Wednesday, I talk openly about the lessons and discoveries that various losses have resulted in--not just time. Whether you lose a person, job or object, lessons are always around the corner waiting to be uncovered. I've learned that with people, we often wait much longer than we should to eliminate toxic relationships from our life because we're afraid of something. That "something" becomes the lessons when we shift our perspective from loss to gain.
Other times, when a relationship ends, we are taught the value of gratitude and are humbled by the pain that makes us aware of why not to take things for granted. Sometimes loved ones are "lost" in order to appreciate and relish in future moments with loved ones that still remain. All losses have lessons, but we have to be willing to explore these emotions knowing that eventually, we'll grow from them.